Dumped & Divorced

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• Natalie & Maressa • Season 1 • Episode 7

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What happens when two sisters decide to bare their souls about heartbreak, healing, and the messy journey that follows? In this episode, we celebrate new goals and receiving our first fan mail while diving deep into the transformative power of life after relationship endings.

We explore a fascinating observation from a divorce lawyer about why women often thrive post-divorce. When you're no longer responsible for someone else's happiness, managing their emotions, or reminding them to take out the trash, you suddenly discover space to focus on yourself. This revelation has been particularly true for Natalie, who shares her journey of rediscovery after her relationship ended.

The conversation takes a vulnerable turn as we discuss the complex emotional landscape of grief and numbness. Six months after losing our father, we're navigating that delicate space between processing pain and protecting ourselves. Sometimes healing means sitting with apathy for a while before diving deeper into difficult emotions.

Against this backdrop of healing, we share the inspiring story of a friend who went from divorce to finding her perfect partner—proof that beautiful love stories can emerge from heartbreak. This sparks our discussion about dating apps versus organic connections, and the rare, immediate chemistry that feels like something from a romance novel.

By the episode's end, we're setting intentions for the week ahead: creating morning routines, continuing "sauna thoughts," training for races, and—most importantly—manifesting the relationships we truly deserve. Because if we can accidentally manifest a Jason "Bateman" commercial, surely we can manifest love that feels like magic.

Will you join us in manifesting better connections, deeper healing, and more authentic relationships? Listen, share, and let's grow together on this journey from heartbreak to wholeness.

Natalie:

Hi guys, welcome to dumped and divorce.

Maressa:

Welcome back.

Natalie:

We are two sisters who talk about life after heartbreak.

Natalie:

My name is Natalie

Maressa:

and my name is Marissa, and this is our podcast. Yes, happy Friday, happy Friday. Yes, oh, it's not Friday, but it will be Friday when everyone listen.

Natalie:

We're gonna yes because I've been listening to more podcasts and I've kind of like how they start their like podcasts with like the okay. Yeah, I like that. So this is our transition into that.

Maressa:

We have made some updates to our like covers. So you know like technically, like we're just going to continuously update our content and our intros and everything in between.

Natalie:

Yeah, so this is episode seven. We've been doing this for about a solid two months. Right, we started kind of dabbling in at the start of the year, but we didn't go live till the end of January, after our birthdays. Yep, the end of January, and the first logo and the first podcast art was going to just be a graphic of two rings that were broken, and then we were like no, we don't want that. So our trailer, like our first trailer that we uploaded for me and you and then our family, was just like Canva. It was Canva. I mean, we're still using Canva, but it was just Canva like words.

Natalie:

And then we used some of the pictures from our photographer.

Maressa:

Hillary. Shout out to Hillary, shout out to Hillary. Where is she based out of Woodstock? Woodstock, yeah, but she's been our family photographer for years, for many years. Yeah, she's done a lot of events for us.

Natalie:

So then, we just updated it this past week to bigger and bolder, and instead of having a little picture, you're going to have a big old, whopping picture of me and Marissa just smiling and on your screen. So enjoy.

Maressa:

That's a new little update. But speaking of updates, we ended last episode where you were really excited about our fan mail and you wanted to share it and I was like, well, let's kind of wrap it up and, you know, talk about that was like a right.

Natalie:

now our goal is about 30 minutes, um more so for editing time.

Maressa:

And we'll also cause like we, you know, like our friends will listen, like on the way to work or heading to the gym or something like where they don't have a very long time.

Natalie:

But honestly like, if you look back at beginning podcast episodes of bigger podcasts, their episodes are shorter, right, so that's just manifesting, yeah, our episodes are going to. Speaking of manifestation, we're going to tag on that because we have to talk about what?

Maressa:

All of the stuff that we've been manifesting and we're going to continue manifesting. But before we go into that, I have to give a shout out to our the first fan mail, our first fan mail, which that's another goal. So we've hit a thousand downloads on episode four and our first fan mail under six episodes, I think. So shout out to our friend's mom You're going to read it, I'm going to read it, I'm going to give it a cute little synopsis. So she said you too. Heart. So honest, so funny, so touching.

Maressa:

I guess it helps to know the players. Your mom is still young, vibrant and beautiful. She has the support of her kids and there's nothing you wouldn't do for her. Being there physically and mentally is the key to her happiness and you are doing just that. Keep doing your best work on this podcast. I think it is insightful, honest and open, also funny. Love you guys. Ps, have you read the Let them Theory? It's a great book about letting go and moving forward and the crazy thing is is I think she sent that right on the episode where we were talking about mom's move and how, like I was taking it like that emotional strain on my mental health in that area, and I don't remember if we talked about the Let them Theory book, but the fact that she mentioned it and then we talked about it was also really cool, coming full circle. Yeah, yeah, mentioned it and then we talked about.

Natalie:

It was also really cool coming full circle, yeah, yeah, so you wrapped up with that book, right, because I finished up with it last week and I think that is, uh, something I'm gonna do. Our podcast is kind of sectioned off into some segments, like we'll talk about current life. We've obviously been talking about books and then we'll talk about fun stuff. Well, yeah, and our mental health, oh totally, yes, yes, yeah. And our mental health, oh totally.

Maressa:

Yes, yes, really big on the mental health part of this, because we understand that everyone who's going through some sort of hardship it's their outlet, to understand that they're not alone. And I think that's the beauty of what we're doing and we're trying to build that community and that sisterhood trying to build that community and that sisterhood.

Natalie:

Yeah, Just trust. I think that there's more to life than just social media reels and we get so caught up in it right.

Maressa:

We do. I mean, I can very much so say, I do too.

Natalie:

And even on social media like TikTok specifically, or well, both TikTok and Instagram specifically, or well, both TikTok and Instagram like those restocks and influencers who just have all these sponsored like it, I don't know. Sometimes I love watching those videos, but then sometimes I'm like what the fuck? Why don't I have all these cute organization things? And then I have FOMO about it. Just what's online? So this is a space where we come in our truest forms half the time, or in sweats half the time. I am rocking a spray tan, right now, yeah, you are.

Natalie:

And most of the time I don't have any makeup on Bear with us, because I know we want to get video. Yes, but it's a goal. We're going to be honest with you Delivering these weekly episodes is a goal that we're proud we have crossed off every single week. Yes, very true, and we're comfortable with what we're using. So, anyways, let's see what were we planning on talking about.

Maressa:

So there was obviously there was a couple of things that you mentioned last week that I really wanted to also dive in a little bit deeper on, like the term co-parenting and divorce. Okay, you're looking at me like you're not ready for this. No, I mean.

Natalie:

Because I asked you some questions about that, right? So, because of the questions and because our phones are super spiced, all last week, my Instagram reel was about co-parents, was about strong mothers, was about breaking trauma bonds, and on my personal Instagram, I shared something that came across and I don't know if I have a screenshot of it, but it basically was talking about breaking trauma bond trauma bonding, I think it is and what that essentially was was similar to what I was saying in regards to the not taking things personal, yeah, and then oh, then you came across a really good one which I feel like I, as your younger sister, saw this firsthand.

Maressa:

So one woman was saying why are women so much happier after a divorce?

Natalie:

She was a divorce lawyer, so she has experience and has seen it firsthand.

Maressa:

Yes, so yes, she was a divorce lawyer, so she has experience and has seen it firsthand. Yes, so she, yes, she was a divorce lawyer. And she said um, have you ever noticed and again I'm going to quote her, but I'm not going to, like, say everything because obviously it's a long winded one but she said have you ever noticed that divorced women are out here glowing, traveling, starting a new business, which I guess you could say this is a new business. You have been traveling the fuck out of yourself if that's even a.

Natalie:

Thing.

Maressa:

When I was in my relationship, I will say we were really good about traveling. We did a lot of things, granted. I think it was for different reasons.

Maressa:

No, I mean, yeah, at the time his sisters lived out of state, but we also traveled on for his birthdays, for my birthdays, we were were going places. Remember, we went. We went to Europe one summer, so, like, we did a lot of traveling. You always were such a homebody and you didn't like to travel. Hence now you're traveling all the time and this is a new thing that we're doing as sisters. We do our sister trips, we travel with our brother. A lot of people can't say that they travel with their siblings and enjoy it. Right, like, we do it for fun and we have the best time. Chad tagged along our Colorado trip when we went for our birthdays. Because he loves to ski, he invited us to his birthday in Ibiza. Not a lot of people can say like, oh, I'm going to invite my sisters because I enjoy spending time with them.

Natalie:

Yeah, and we go out with our brother. So a lot of times you and I will be somewhere and then we'll meet up with him and his friends later.

Maressa:

Yeah, yeah, we're really good about that. Back to that divorce lawyer girl. You know she was saying notice how they're glowing, traveling, starting a new business, living their absolute best life. And I can say honestly that has happened with you. I think you've become a better version of yourself. You've done things for you, like kind of selfishly. You know, for a lot of women marriage could be like another job.

Maressa:

And you know it could be where you're the emotional support system for your partner and for your kids or for just. You know that household right, you know house manager, the default parent, you know all of these things and you're carrying a lot of that weight of those duties. The relationship where sometimes the partners or the husbands like just exist, you know, and so like when marriages end, it's not really the loss of like the person, but it's like you're not responsible for someone else's happiness, and I think that's something that you truly have worked on, because you focused on yourself. You don't have to remind anyone what to do. You cause, you have to do it yourself. You have to cook, you have to clean, you have to do laundry.

Natalie:

You don't have to get mad at anyone for taking out the trash, cause I fucking take out the trash.

Maressa:

Exactly, you're not in charge of anyone else's emotions while ignoring your own, because you're literally focusing on you. Yes, and I think that is so true. Yes, and I could say that that's happened with you. Yes.

Natalie:

And I feel that, just because women in general have that mothering, nurturing instinct, that doing all those things comes out of a place of love. It starts out as a place of love, yeah, but then when you get comfortable, right, you start to start stretching limits. And, yes, I, I saw that and I shared it because so much of what she said was true and um yes.

Maressa:

And there's nothing negative, right?

Natalie:

I think there's a lot of beauty to what was said in that times than not met, like it's rare that you find a partner where the marriage is 50-50. And then, like I follow Dave Ramsey on Facebook and there's been a lot of posts recently I think it was Dave Ramsey about joint money, right, and how people need to have, if you're married, joint money. That was not the case in our marriage and, yeah, I mean there's just a lot of stuff that I've learned in my last relationship and, like I mentioned last week, I am okay in this chapter in my life of not dating and actually today I did have a session With your therapist, with my therapist.

Natalie:

Wow.

Maressa:

I love that for you.

Natalie:

Yeah, so she's great, I love her. I've been seeing her for it's coming up on three years and we talked about a lot of things that I'm like right now. I told her I was kind of in a state of numb and it's probably because dad obviously I'm still sad about dad Like I was telling somebody there's not a day where we I don't think about him or there's not a day that me and the kids don't talk about him, or there's not a day where I don't think about him, or there's not a day that me and the kids don't talk about him or there's

Maressa:

not a day that he doesn't cross my mind, right, because we did hit the six-month mark, yes, this week, and St Patrick's Day was his favorite holiday.

Natalie:

Yeah, so it's just having those detachments. It's just where I am right now.

Maressa:

But you said, said something really like, really I loved what you put about describing that numbness. There's a term, oh, it's called apathy, like apathy not empathy but apathy.

Natalie:

Yeah, so empaths feel all the emotion, uh-huh. Apathy is when you don't feel emotion.

Maressa:

Can you have at paths people Like you know how you're, like I'm an empath. Can you say I'm an empath? Yeah Sounds like a British, I'm an umpath. Yeah, so I never really associated it. People are like Some people can remove themselves so well from situations where they are literally I don't want to say an out of body of experience, but they are so far removed that it doesn't affect them. And sometimes I'm envious of that because I'm like cause I feel so much, I feel everything. Sometimes I overfeel and I can be overwhelming.

Natalie:

Yeah Well, right now I'm just in this phase where there's no feeling like that. This doesn't mean that I'm going to go and jump off of a off of a building at all.

Natalie:

Well, you took that really far. Well, I just I want to be very clear like that. That doesn't like my mental being and my mental state I feel like is at a good spot, Like I'm happy with life, I'm present and that's all I can focus on. And, like Tori was telling me was the reason why I'm not really diving into those feelings and trying to work them out is because it's hard. It's hard to work through and right now I'm just going to, I'm going to give myself through the end of the month and then, if I still don't have my shit together, then I'm going to go on a hike or something and spend time between me and the world. Yeah, it was funny when the storms were coming through, I was telling the kids about mother nature. They were asking me about why there was tornadoes coming and I was like mother nature is is just putting those storms, it's just because it's what's happening. And he was like is she mean?

Maressa:

One of the twins.

Natalie:

Yeah, she was. He was like is mother nature mean? Why would she do this? Anyways, I'm going to.

Maressa:

I have to go do that, but but can you the six months, the, the path, like what? How did she describe that for you? For you for it to click, in a sense where you're like, wow, this is me going through these emotions?

Natalie:

Yeah, well, I was telling her that right now I don't, I don't want to say I'm in fight or flight, because I'm not. There's nothing you're fighting for, there's nothing like right now everything is very peaceful. But I have no. I just right now I'm avoiding the shit out of kind of going like knowing that I have to dive deep into my feelings, like I have to figure out career wise what I'm going to do. I have to figure out there's just a lot of things that that I'm not ready to get into right now. And that's what she said. She was like you know, the seasons are changing because I'm also having a hard time sleeping. She said that that could be it that my detachment and my insomnia is is causing me to kind of to do that. So we're just going to, we're going to focus on, on being present like we have been, like I have been, and that's where we are.

Maressa:

Kind of like how I do feel like I'm being very present in my like phase of life. I think I've been really good on being in that feel, if you will, because my high school, one of my high school best friends, is getting married and I've been really focusing on that and putting a lot of my happiness and positivity into that because and I asked like if it was okay to like share this, and so she, in the same year that my ex called off the wedding, she was going through a divorce at literally like a month not even a month, I remember, yeah.

Natalie:

Cause you went like the next weekend.

Maressa:

Yeah, I, she called me. She told me what was going on. I booked a fricking flight to Colorado and I helped her move out of her house and it was. It was just a lot of emotions.

Maressa:

Talk about two girls going through it, like we were essentially crying about both of our relationships while moving out of her home and she was having to come back, you know, to come back to georgia, come back to the southeast, because she was obviously out at west and when she moved back to the south she started dating again and I was so happy for her and she met an angel. I adore her fiance, literally the perfect person for her. Like they make the cutest couple, they just it's like one of those couples where you're like wow there's.

Maressa:

They. Not only do they look good together, but they just compliment each other and they love each other, and he is a saint. If I could replicate him for everyone, I like no, I would, because he's amazing and he's been there for her in her hardest times and I love that and this is probably going to be somewhat included in my maid of honor speech, because I've just loved seeing their love grow and so I'm really excited to focus on them. You know like we have our bachelorette coming and then we have her wedding, and so I also want to say like I love her story because you know she went through a divorce and her divorce was hard.

Maressa:

There was some toxicity. She was living in the green pond in a green fishbowl more out there, and you know. So I love like knowing that her story. I've witnessed it from the worst to the best, and she's now marrying the kindest person ever and I believe that there's the happy ending for everyone. So I'm maybe holding onto that and just like focusing on that, because you know you want that for everyone, and you also like love that you're seeing your friend fall in love and be happy.

Natalie:

Exactly In the purest way, I know your friend and I know her story and I know that when my autumn Marissa happened like she was, you know, so sweet to me because that was when I was going through my breakup. I mean she was in the midst of her divorce but you know, just being there for someone in their most vulnerable time and then to see them happy, but I love that for you and I love that you're that you've been able to.

Natalie:

I know you do a lot of romance books but I'm glad that you're able to see love happen again through the eyes of your friend who has been heartbroken. You know like love doesn't just have to end right now. It might not be in the cards for you and I, but that doesn't mean that it's forever you know, so, but again, she met him on a dating app.

Maressa:

Yeah, she did. She met him, I believe, on hinge. And then I have another really best friend that met her now boyfriend on another dating app called the league. Oh, she was on the league, yeah, so, um, you know, there is positivity in the. It can happen, you can. Speaking of the dating apps, so many people actually, after hearing our episode of me like being like did you fucking create?

Natalie:

a plenty of fish account.

Maressa:

I've had three people be like. I've had the spam emails from plenty of fish.

Natalie:

I think there was something going around with okay, so maybe it was a data hack or something from everyone on the dating apps.

Maressa:

Well, yeah, so I mean there is there is so much beauty in dating apps. There's nothing wrong with that. No, I've just had some fun times on my dating apps. Well, yeah, so I mean there is so much beauty in dating apps? There's nothing wrong with that. I've just had some fun times on my dating apps. I've met some interesting characters on the dating apps. I remember when I created one for you, you created one for me. Oh yeah, you were acting as me.

Natalie:

I wasn't acting as you, I made it very clear on your profile that it was me making it for you, correct, and then I would pass it off to you when we matched. It was your pictures, it was your description, it was just more like a hey, this is my hot sister who is single and ready to mingle. She knows that I'm doing this, but it's hard to put yourself back out there. And also, when you met your ex-fiance and when I met my ex-husband, dating apps were a thing, because I remember one of my close college friends actually was on Match. I mean, match has been around forever.

Maressa:

Yes, that's like an OG one. Yeah.

Natalie:

And she was on Match, but that was really like the only one.

Maressa:

Now there's like Bumble and Hinge and Tinder, and there's like, even like categories. Yeah, like someone told me like farmers, there's farmers, there's for, like women, men.

Maressa:

There's for like the religions there's for yeah, there's a lot of them, but yes, you're right, there's plentitude of them where you can have. And, like you know, obviously I'm all about dating and I think that's something that's big. For me is like going on dates and just meeting different people and different, just putting myself out there. But it is hard, it could be hard, and it's definitely one of those things where you could like want to give up and it's also just like repetitive. You're like you have to say like who you are, what you do, your hobbies, right, and there's always like these funny memes of like oh, it's just me going on another date saying, what do you do? How many you know? And there was this hilarious Tiffany. What's her name?

Natalie:

Tiffany Haddish Is it Haddish or Haddish Haddish?

Maressa:

She's like hey, you single, you got any baby mamas, you got any kids? Are you married, you have a job, and those are all things like we kind of have to go through or think of.

Natalie:

So I went on a date with this guy that I actually matched with on an app.

Maressa:

Didn't you go to college with him?

Natalie:

I did. I did go to college with him, but I didn't like I knew of him in college. But anyways, it was terrible.

Maressa:

I love that you're sharing this. Oh my gosh.

Natalie:

I mean the people want to know. The people want to know Natalie's got some Natalie has. I do have some stories, okay, but we keep it very preserved and reserved in case my children ever get a hold of this, unlike me, where you're like slandering your auntie.

Natalie:

Well, yeah and anyways, but it was like a couple of dates, oh shit. It was a couple of dates and I think I decided that I'm more of an organic kind of person and it might not happen. Right, like, meeting someone organically might not be in the cards for me, but I'm going to hold on to that and start manifesting it, because I'm going to tell you this and this is all I'm going to say about this subject is, when you meet someone organically and there's like instant connection, it sucks when the timing isn't right. Yes, but I've experienced it.

Maressa:

And wow, what's that saying? Right person, wrong time.

Natalie:

Yeah, I mean, I truly feel like that was that situation, yeah.

Maressa:

I do.

Natalie:

But you know what? There's no point in, you know, thinking about what if? Because I chose what I chose and that's all I'll say about it. But damn, dropping little nuggets. That's the only little nugget I'll drop. On the subject, however, I'm holding out on feeling that, again, like I. I know what it felt like, I know that it was. It was kind of like a book or like a movie. I don't have that for you. Yeah Well, you know that ship sailed and right person, wrong time and yeah, but anyways, have you ever felt that? Ooh, ooh, like I'm talking?

Maressa:

I don't think so.

Natalie:

No, and I think that's what I'm seeking.

Maressa:

I'm really seeking for that.

Natalie:

So I know it exists yeah.

Maressa:

Totally, and I mean we read about it all the time in our romance novels yeah.

Maressa:

Yeah, cause I I I'm not going to discredit the love I had for my ex. There's not any love there now. It's just like it's like motionless, kind of like apathy towards it. Yes, wow, we really did come full circle with that term. What we had was great and I do feel like at the time, you know, we loved each other and I was very much so in love with him. But now I'm like I guess I'm a little delusional in that. Not delusional, but like I'm like there's so much more and I'm like I can't wait for that feeling for myself because I know what I deserve and I know that I'm worthy of it and that I'm not going to settle for anything other.

Natalie:

Yeah, I'm worthy of it and that I'm not going to settle for anything other than that. Yeah Well, it exists for sure, because instant connection, instant attraction, instant feeling and instant chemistry exists. It's happened seriously once for me, and then another time over the summer, and that's oh my gosh.

Maressa:

Are you dropping that nugget too? I love this version of Natalie tonight.

Natalie:

No, I mean that, but like that summer.

Maressa:

That summer I told you guys, I would bring you songs every now and then.

Natalie:

Um, but it exists, it's there, it's real, and I think that that is what you and I both are seeking out on. It's just that. So what we're going to do, because-.

Maressa:

We're going to manifest the shit out of it.

Natalie:

We're going to manifest the shit out of it. I know I say I'm not ready to date because I don't want to date.

Maressa:

I'm going to laugh if you actually start dating before me.

Natalie:

I don't want to do the fucking apps. Do the fucking apps. I don't want to swipe. I don't want to small talk, I don't have time for that. I just want to cross paths with someone and feel it, because it's happened to me a couple of times, but okay. So I will say this in regards to manifestation Remember that time when we were talking about Chicago and we were talking about Batman and we were talking about how it was.

Natalie:

In my head it was Christian Bale is the Batman that I was referring to. However, I said Christian Bateman.

Maressa:

And then I was like no, Bateman is a different character, a different actor.

Natalie:

Yes, the Jennifer Aniston. He was in that Jennifer Aniston movie. Yeah, he's on like the switch or whatever I think it is.

Maressa:

He's also in horrible bosses, he's a funny one, very dry, very dry sense of humor.

Natalie:

So Marissa sends me the state farm.

Maressa:

It was a March madness. Um cause, March madness is officially started and it was like a March madness. I saw it on the TV when we were watching it and I had to.

Natalie:

I was cooking in the kitchen and I like double looked at the TV because they were talking about Batman, and then I heard Jason Bateman and I was like wait literally, literally, Like I was like what the fuck? We were talking about?

Maressa:

we were talking about Batman and Christian Bale's in Chicago filming. Gotham and then Gotham, gotham city, and then you say Bateman. And I'm like that's a different. Yeah, and there's literally a freaking State Farm commercial with Jason Bateman as Batman. But they call him Bateman and the guy from State Farm is like why would you want to get a Bateman when you can get a Batman? And I'm like did we just manifest this commercial? Because damn, what are the odds of that happening?

Natalie:

So the power of manifestation, guys? Yes, it exists, and that's what we're going to do. We're going to just manifest that chemistry happens and falls into our place. Our cold hearts just soften just a little bit More so mine, yeah, yours, mine has been thawing.

Maressa:

I've been on just chilling. I mean, I'm kind of in a place where I'm like enjoying things right, Like I'm just doing me. But I love that you are opening up to that idea and you're like thinking about all of this and you're dropping little teasers here and there, and I just love it.

Natalie:

Well, my therapist told me that steps that you take today, like if the future is too overwhelming right Like last week I mentioned how I was feeling lonely one night and I grabbed my oldest and pulled her into my bed so we could snuggle and my therapist you know she was just like Natalie take small actions to, even though you're not going to be able to predict your future, that will get you to where you want to be. So I think switching my mind into being open to accepting love again is something I'm going to work on and hopefully you do it with me. I'm open to it, I'm open to falling in love.

Maressa:

Is this our little like entry of like next week on the Bachelor? The sisters join in this journey, but we're not going to do dating apps, no, well, no, maybe I might. I might dabble into those. They're fun. There's like a. It could be a boost of confidence and then also like a boost of well, it's just the yeah, okay.

Natalie:

So I think we talked about a lot of the things that we yeah, there's all the things I wanted to talk about.

Maressa:

For sure, yeah, yeah, there was all the things I was mentioning, and so what are we going to do for next week? So what are the things that we want to focus on the next week For next, week for my mental health.

Natalie:

I am going to focus on more of a schedule right, giving myself time before the kids wake up, giving myself time to be open to blessings and start manifesting things that maybe I was scared to manifest before. That's what I'm going to do, wow, okay, that's amazing. I love that. And then I started back in the sauna today, so Sauna thoughts.

Maressa:

Sauna thoughts. For those who are not following Natalie on Instagram shameless plug, she's really great. Sauna thoughts.

Natalie:

Yes, so I thought about like making a book about that.

Maressa:

Your sauna thoughts.

Natalie:

Or like a journal about it Love it.

Maressa:

That's a very great idea.

Natalie:

Yeah, I do like that a lot. What about you?

Maressa:

For me. I am focusing, so I don't know. I guess, like speaking of manifestation, I'm holding a little bit of information on a race I'm doing just a little bit near me.

Natalie:

You had a race last weekend.

Maressa:

I did, I did a 5K.

Natalie:

Did you get your scores?

Maressa:

Oh well, I knew my time and knew my time and pace after, literally after the race.

Natalie:

Does it give you like? It gives you the rankings. Later you can like log into the oh yeah, I was like top.

Maressa:

I was out of my age. I was like top 20. I don't know I could look at it again I was like 14 of a hundred and something women between 30 and 39 or 30 and 35.

Natalie:

I remember I did a trail run once years ago and I was like the top three of my age bracket and it was. It had to be like 20 to 25, 25 to 30, but that was years ago and that was like the one race that I've done.

Maressa:

Well, I'm not fast, I can't I mean. I can't say you're fast enough. I mean I'm not fast, but I'm like average, Like I've been You've been like 11 minute miles.

Maressa:

So, for me, I've been doing these races Like I am telling myself I'm going to do a 5K, a 10K, a 15K, a half marathon, all of these races to build up to this big race that I'm. Once I could tell you I will, but maybe this is me just manifesting, saying I'm doing it right, it's happening. So I did a 5k last week with a college girlfriend. Um, she is so fast, she ended up like she. I was like, girlfriend, you go, you go ahead, and she ended up like being like a solid two minutes before me. But so, and then we're doing a 10 K. I I actually haven't told you this, but I'm going to do a 10 K in Charleston. Oh yeah, in two weeks. Oh yeah, cause I wanted you to come and guess who's coming. No, nicole's coming.

Natalie:

Nicole's going to be with me.

Maressa:

Um, my bride bestie. Um so Nicole's coming and she, one of her uh, one of her fiance's friends lives in Charleston and his girlfriend's running in it.

Natalie:

So it's going to be like a couple trip for them.

Maressa:

So they're going to go together, yeah, so they're going to be there and they'll support me and everything. So I'm going to be mentally preparing myself for the 10K I have coming up and just getting in like 6.2. Yeah, 6.2. And just getting in that mental 6.4. Is it 3.2?

Natalie:

No, it's a 3.1. Okay, so 6.2. Okay.

Maressa:

It's so funny because, like when we go to Spain, like everything's in kilometers and I'm like I should know what a 10 K is and what a five K is, At least right Cause we have races.

Maressa:

Yeah, so a 10 K is 6.2 miles, so so, yeah, so, um, that's what I'm going to be doing, focusing on that and just getting in, like really cause running races and like long distance is such a mental, a mental thing, it's a mental game. So for me, I'm just going to shift and focus on getting my head in the game. Get your head in the game Uh, high school musical fans may get my head in the game and, um, start, you know, training and being really intense about and intentional about my races and how I'm going to be training for this race Awesome.

Natalie:

Okay, so well, I look forward. This week is going to be a good week. We're manifesting the shit out of a good weekend, a good upcoming week, and then we'll come back to you guys next Friday with, you know, another episode of Natalie and Marissa's diary.

Maressa:

We like joke and say that, like this is our diaries, yes, and so podcast therapy, yep. So thanks again for tuning in. Yes, we love your support.

Natalie:

Definitely appreciate all the listeners If you haven't already follow the show on either Apple or Spotify so that when we drop new episodes you can just have a notification pop up and then, if our new picture doesn't come up, research the show, because I promise we are very proud of it and it's it's really good, Like I feel like we look profesh, like a fish and legit, like all the things.

Maressa:

Do you agree? Yeah, no, I mean it's. It's definitely an updated look. I do love that.

Natalie:

I mean it's the same picture, but it's just bigger and bolder, and it's good, it's good for sure.

Maressa:

So it's just showing our progression. I love the before and after of it. So yes, so well. We will see you next week.

Natalie:

Yes, guys. Okay, have a good weekend and toodles Bye.

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